The beginning of my journey to break free from Social Media Addiction and to lead a more Authentic Life.
It may seem counter intuitive to start a blog after deciding to leave social media behind in the search for a true authentic life. However, I believe this to be a crucial step in my journey.
First off, I am totally ashamed to say I have tried to quit Facebook many many times… and failed. I have deleted the app off of my phone. I have deleted my account. I have set the fancy new limits on my new iPhone. Each and every time I needed a social media fix I found a way and an excuse. I would feel the need to shut off the world and relax. Scrolling through my feed did anything but relax me, but that never stopped that automatic reflex.
I do use Facebook to run a business (Little Dreamers Wellness Center) and promote my Art. I also am active in several homeschooling groups with wonderful opportunities for my family and my own Homeschool groups that I oversee. I am active in a few charities and activist groups I care deeply about. Facebook is essential to these super important parts of my life.
“Each and every time I needed a social media fix I found a way and an excuse. I would feel the need to shut off the world and relax. Scrolling through my feed did anything but relax me, but that never stopped that automatic reflex.”
What Facebook is not essential to… is my relationship with myself and my loved ones.
A Quest for an Authentic Life
I am a natural over-sharer. I am also an intuitive empath that soaks in all the emotions from others around me. Facebook is a very dangerous place for someone like me. I do love to be involved in conversations from people all different walks in life. What I do not love is seeing someone I know who has a good heart… say terrible things on social media not even realizing the impact they have on others. When there is a screen between two people having a conversation it breaks down the fundamentals of interaction. Something someone would have no problem saying to me on Facebook, most likely is not something they might say when face to face with me.
When I say I am seeking an authentic life, what I mean is I want to leave behind the shallowness. I miss my real relationships. I remember discovering Facebook my senior year of college and encouraging my then boyfriend to join so I could show my friends who hadn’t met him what a hottie he was. Now he is my husband and I cannot count the number of movies he has claimed that I have seen… and I have no recollection because I was scrolling on Facebook the entire time!
I can also not claim anymore that Facebook is a way to keep in contact with friends and relatives who are far away. My best friend (we jokingly refer to ourselves as sisterwives) lives across the country and we never interact on Facebook. I see posts from my aunt or my dad, which makes me think I know what is going on in their lives so I don’t take the time to call and talk to them.
It also interferes with the relationships right in front of me. It is easy for me to get lost in my feed while my kids are absorbed in their schoolwork. More than once my kids have had to wait for a reply from me while I type away a response to some stranger I do not know and will never meet on a subject I will never change their mind on. There have been many times my husband has come home and I have not acknowledged him because my face has been in a screen.
So yes, here begins a blog on all the awesome moments I refuse to miss from now on.
If you want to follow along on my journey welcome!